Optimistic!

cloudsWonderful to be at the halfway mark this semester in college. It seems that when you arrive at the mid-term phase you feel a bit more relaxed. My anxious thoughts about how well I will do with the exams are at a minimal and that helps.

 

It is very strange to age in prison.  If you are a person that keeps good values about his or herself you will make it in here.  However if you keep those old negative values things can get very exponentially bad for you.  I have seen this happen over and over in prison.  In order to survive you have to remain optimistic at all times! You have to.

Spring is here and yes, all the birds, all the squirrels are in the midst of their mating rituals. I even saw two fly’s mating…I kid you not! :)  The trees are getting green and it is so very beautiful.

I thank the Creator for everything….

 

Feeling good…

2189900Today I am in a very good place because my thoughts are about what’s right and as a consequence my emotions are in tune with my thoughts. These types of days are limited but when they are here I do feel so at ease. I have to remember it’s not people, places or things that hinder my progress…it is all my own doing. I am responsible for my own thoughts and emotions.  Blaming my negative thoughts and emotions on others is just a cop out. Sometimes you really have to grab the bull by the horns and look into the mirror while you are doing it, LOL :)

 

So anyways everything else is good and I am half way through this semester, looking forward to the finals coming up. I really do thank everyone for their support in all I am achieving, God knows it helps!

 

 

School days

Crossed EyesHave had a super dynamite day here in prison so far, a bit lazy for the most part, after the morning workout of course. Not much to journal about except the upcoming mid-terms for this semester are next week.  I see so much anxiety in fellow students that are new to college.  I remember myself then and now and oh my, what a difference! But this is the process of learning and not just the material but learning about yourself and how to manage both.

 

I offer my help to anyone who asks, however honestly, I too can get anxiety to some degree.  I seem to be able to control my emotions so that I can think clearly and rationally. How do I do it?? Well I just have learned in order to think clearly your body must be calm.  So I believe relaxation techniques like meditation are good before taking tests.  It might sound corny or something but for me it really does work. Sometimes I put high expectations on myself but you have to remember as long as a person does their best – you are still a winner no matter what.  If you fail, do it again till eventually you get it…..and you will!!

 

 

Prison insights

bird on wire2What a very, very interesting place to be…in prison. We have a television channel that shows these reality crime cases like: Forensic Files, American Justice, etc. One day as I was watching there he was on television, an old cell mate I had for  3 years in another prison! I leave names out for privacy but everything he shared in confidence on the program was true as they portrayed the case file on him. You never really know who you are talking with in here…or who to believe.

 

One inmate here in Chino gave me some sound advice,” You really do not have friends here in prison, only acquaintances.”  This is some good advice to new inmates.  You must learn to have and create strong boundaries to protect yourself from the negative people that can influence your choices.  It has taken me a very long time to understand this and to put it into use in my life. Better late than never :)  Choose your circle of acquaintances wisely in prison!!

 

Random thoughts

4683609Another day has passed by like a flower tumbling in the breeze. Oh what a joy to be able to express my thoughts and emotions to anyone willing to read them. I give thanks for this blog and all those taking the time to read it!  :)

I am very grateful for college and the time I have to devote to learning. I realize that all this work is not just for myself but more importantly for those people (who are struggling with addiction)  in the future that I may hopefully help with my guidance. This is my hope and belief for my future goals in becoming an addiction guidance specialist. This time in prison is not for nothing, I will make sure of that!

Tonight however was a great night for dinner at the chow hall.  We had BBQ chicken with pinto beans and salad! It is the little things is it not!?!

 

What I know…

cloudsThis early morning as I watched the sunrise and sipped my coffee I saw inside my heart and realized how good it feels to give and to be kind. Something I have learned in prison is if you do not set a self protective boundary around you most people, not all, will use you for whatever means is necessary. For me there is also a good, effective and respectful way to do this and also a negative, discouraging way.  Of course if you want the respect of others then you have to be willing to give it as well no matter what the circumstances.

 

Another thing I have realized is the definition of a friend. There are so many but to me a friend is an unconditional, empathetic ally when things get rough, as well as a trustworthy person. In prison there are no friends…only acquaintances. It is important to understand the difference. Some advice to give someone new to prison is be aware of your surroundings: Look, Listen and Learn. The 3 “L’s”.  If you see someone is stealing from another inmate or lying to someone else chances are great that they will steal or lie to you!

 

“For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth comes knowledge and understanding.”
Proverbs  2:6

 

Gratitude…

laughingI am sitting outside on this beautiful day @ 7:45 a.m. just thinking how lucky I am to have all the things I do and being grateful for the things I do not have also! I have learned to express my thoughts and feelings in an effective way to promote a sense of balance which helps me adapt to all the different personalities in prison.  I will admit that sometimes it is not easy. But it feels wonderful to experience this growth, especially here in prison. I remain strong and faithful in my commitment for self change and will continue looking for ways to reach my goal.  Self determination is the key that unlocks those old closed doors to my heart and soul.  My relationships are the reflection of my inner true self. I needed all this time to finally realize things for myself.

 

When you find people in prison who share your values and goals you begin to share your thoughts and emotions with each other without bias or judgement.  You relate to a group of people and depend on each other…interdependence can be good in this way.

 

Higher learning!

learningGreetings again from behind the walls in prison. I do have to admit that adding the classes on becoming a Certified Addiction Treatment Counselor is enlightening for me. With these new classes so many of my own personal questions are being answered, the “whys” of my own years of struggling, barely surviving and massive drug use are becoming clearer to me.  I encourage anyone who is tired of of the self seeking desires that have negative consequences to take a chance and find yourself with education.  Willingness and courage to do things that are healthy and beneficial to not only you but society as well will go a long way, people will notice.  To make a stand and be proud of the things you do for the good is so freaking cool!!  To under any circumstances keep close to your heart, to understand your weaknesses and strengths and to be patient, these are practices to have.  I see these principles and I practice them here in prison because they truly protect me and others from a lot.  Granted not everything is wonderful but as long as you keep true to yourself and others with warmth, genuineness and empathy your attitudes will influence others.

Part of being an adult is knowing you are not perfect and will make mistakes from time to time.  Not making the same choices that hurt yourself or others is the goal.

It’s OK to love yourself!

 

Competition!!

4683609Competition!  We have to compete for everything, the last word, who’s right or wrong, even what color the sky is in your world. LOL!  When you get a lot of males together they go around like rams butting heads about everything.  I have been around males all my life and this fact has just exhausted me completely.  That’s one thing I love about females, they are more involved with their feelings and how to cope and manage them without having to self-medicate.  At the end of the day I just get along better with girls…yippy, yippy!

 

So anyways guys, prison is the same, caught and caged like a wild animal.  I am trying very hard to ignore some people who have no good direction or desire for a better life and stick to those that are seekers of positive change. The food here has been getting better and that is a plus :) The program here is also becoming more structured for such a small place. But the real question is where do they find some of these people?!  For real, I think I need to get back into focusing on the cycles of nature and stop thinking so much about people in here.  If you focus to much energy on negative things it seems that the negative becomes a magnet that tries very hard to pull you in its path.

 

I remind myself of my true desire to do good despite other influences that could hinder my growth.  Just a reminder to everyone that being grateful for people who stay with you during your trials and tribulations are the ones that do love you.  You have to be willing to allow that love inside you to help break any energy that wants to bring you down.  Having a mother, father, brother, sister or girlfriend are reminders that we will never be alone in the darkness.

 

 

For Mom…

Mom's AvatarThe weather has changed and is so nice and so soothing. I feel like I can think clearly and be calm.  I have again taken up soccer, running and weight lifting as all these simple things I can do for myself are healthy and a good investment for my future.  So far the new year is good here in prison with no problems at all!

 

Well everyone I would like to take this moment and send blessings to my mother on her birthday.   Even though we have spent very few together I have remembered every one of them in my heart and prayers.  May all her dreams and wishes come to be and I also give thanks to God for the bond between she and her husband.

I believe the great thing about pain, hurt and fear is the ability to experience their opposite – wellness, joy and courage.  No one ever said being human is an easy feat but this life is a gift and I give thanks to my mother for it.  Happy Birthday Mom!

And for me, being able to let my family know of my heart’s thank you is a gift I give myself these days.  I pray for the other mothers, fathers, sons and daughters out there every where who are experiencing their own issues.

Quote of the Day:  “For length of days and long life and peace they will add to you.”            Proverbs  3:2